The Role of Time in Healing
Does time really heals?
They always say that time heals all wounds, but I always wonder if that is really the case. Is it time that mends the broken pieces of our hearts, or there is something else? Growing up, I always hear this phrase from friends and families, I usually told about this to lessen the hurt that I am feeling after a painful experience. But as I grew older and discover more about myself and the lives of people that surrounds me, I question wether time alone is the healer that heals our wounds.
When I recently lost my grandmother, I felt sad and devastated. “Lola’s boy” if they call me when I was still a child. She was my best friend, a support system, and someone who is always proud about everything that I achieved. The pain that I felt was too sharp and overwhelming, like a storm that I couldn’t escape. then again, I was told that with time, the pain would lessen, and someday I will remember her with a smile instead of tears in my face. In the days of grief, I believed this promise, hoping that time would indeed heal my broken heart.
“lilipas din ang ulan, sisikat din ang araw”
As days turned into weeks and weeks into months, I noticed that the rawness of my grief began to fade. The moments of cries and sadness became less frequent, and I started to appreciate and find joy in the memories that we had shared. But was it time that healed me, or is there something else? Reflecting on what happened, I realized that it wasn’t just the passage of time that brought healing, but the process of mourning, grieving, and remembering her.
I found solace in talking about my grandmother, sharing our memories together when she was still alive, I sought comfort in the arms of my family and friends who knows my loss and offered their support. I also found healing through church, allowing myself to surrender and feel the love and understanding that my emotions are valid and that I can be vulnerable sometimes. It was through this journey that I began to heal, not just because of the mere passage of time.
“do we really have to move on, or do we just need to learn how to live with the pain?”
There are also wounds that time alone cannot heal. Deep emotional scars, trauma, and unresolved conflicts often need more than just the passing of time. So, does time really heal? The answer is both yes and no. Time serves as our canvas upon which we can paint our healing journey, but it is the process — our actions — that truly mends our broken hearts.
It is not just time that heals our wounds and broken hearts, but how we use that time to rebuild and stand up again. The promise of “time heals all wounds” doesn’t lies in the passage of days, but in the resilience of our spirit and our willingness to find light even in the darkest of times.
